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If You Want Attention Stamp by AmethystKirby If You Want Attention Stamp by AmethystKirby
"If you want to get positive attention, respect and kindness, then you have to earn it. And if you're wondering why someone dislikes you or what you love, even when it isn't hurting anyone, then maybe you should shut up and learn the reason why"

This shouldn't even need to be said, but it does. It does so much.

People are always wondering why, why, why doesn't what I love get the nice attention that it deserves? Why are there so many haters? What did it ever do to hurt them?

I personally hear this a LOT from fans of certain animals, like wolves and foxes. They think they know all this stuff about their favorite animal and always try to defend it and think it only ever does good, and will always respond to "haters" with "What did they ever do to you?" And they never listen, even when someone has a legitimate reason to dislike something. For example...

"I just don't understand why people hate wolves so much. They're beautiful, they're intelligent, they're so loving and protective, and the Native Americans used to worship them! I mean, wolves never hurt anything or do any wrong, so why do people want them all dead?"

"Well, personally I don't like wolves because they killed my dog. They didn't even eat him, they just killed him and left. And my uncle was randomly attacked by wolves while he was hiking in the woods, and now he's missing a part of the muscle in his leg."

"Well duh, wolves have to eat, right? And I seriously doubt that he was attacked by wolves, because wolves never attack humans. Everyone knows that. And besides, even if it was true, he was on their territory so he deserved it. He's just stupid. And it was probably a bear. Bears attack humans, wolves are too scared of them."

"Okay..? But they didn't eat my dog, they just killed him. And why would he lie about something like that? I think he can tell the difference between a wolf and another animal."

"Wolves never just kill things because they feel like it, somebody probably just scared them away before they could eat it, which is dumb because they were hungry and it was already dead anyways."

"Wolves attack things all the time, they're wolves! They hunt stuff, that's how they survive!"

"Yeah, but they only attack for food, not for fun! Wolves never take more than they need and they only kill when they absolutely need to!"

"That's crap! Those stupid wolves killed my dog and attacked my uncle, that's all I'm saying!"


"GODDAMN!! STOP TRYING TO JUSTIFY IT!!! YOU wanted to know why someone might not like wolves and I'm telling you, so listen and shut the fuck up!!"

And even in the cases that a person has never been directly hurt by an animal that they dislike, they are still allowed to have reasons not to like it. Maybe someone doesn't like wolves because they think they're ugly or destructive, maybe someone doesn't like wolves because they kill deer and moose and pets, maybe someone doesn't like wolves because they have a phobia of them. And of course the fans have to appear and try to defend these animals tooth and nail, and it only makes the case against them worse.

And it doesn't just have to be animals, it could be anything. Maybe you used to like a certain series but the fandom ruined it for you. There's nothing wrong with that. And if you briefly mention that to someone, somebody of course has to come in and say, "If you don't like it then don't look at or read about it!! Let the people who do like it enjoy it, jerk!"

And it's exactly responses like that that help someone to start to dislike something even more. If it's been repeated and drawn and used to death and the fans get snippy or defensive, then maybe that's why people dislike the series. Even if there's nothing wrong with the series itself and they may have otherwise liked it, then you have noone to blame but yourself for making people start to hate it. You're allowed to love it, others are allowed to not love it. Please, realize that and leave it be.

I could also take the chance to mention things like yaoi, yuri and maybe some hentai here. Some people are huge fans of these things and have no idea why other people may dislike it, and may even label haters as ignorant homophobes. But have you ever stopped to think that maybe someone doesn't like yaoi because they or someone they knew were raped?

Like, I'm being serious there. It's common law for there to be rape atleast once in some of yaoi or hentai, and people find this to be cute, sexy or funny, and think that being raped by someone is completely romantic or is a sign that the rapist is in total love and may or may not immediately realize that. Rape is not any of those things whatsoever. And if someone, male or female, has experienced a very traumatic rape that was painful and horrifying, and they see some little girls giggling over some yaoi because it's so cute and they're just waiting for the big "first-love scene", then can you really blame them for feeling some level of hate or disgust towards the matter in general? Some people who are raped or molested can't even be touched on the shoulder by a friend without seizing up or reliving the horrible experience, so the concept of teenage girls finding what is essentially rape to be awesome and sexy is completely unthinkable and outlandish. Even if those girls or fans in general don't actually want to be raped or find real rape to be a laughing matter, it doesn't matter, the offensive idea is still there.

And if the subject of the matter at hand is yourself or someone you know and there are people who dislike you or your work, then surely there must be a reason. Maybe it's the tone and context that you use when typing, maybe it's because you're so snarky and sarcastic to people, maybe your art isn't as good as you think it is, maybe you fav and run far too often, maybe you're kinda whiny, maybe you post really annoying journals or have a different opinion and don't state it very well, maybe you're loud and pushy and react easily even without proper provocation, maybe you seem overly obsessed with something that is overrated or annoying, maybe you trace or recolor or rip-off stuff (perhaps without meaning to or noticing), maybe you constantly throw around the "you're just jealous!" reply, maybe it's your own watchers and overly-defensive fans who make you look bad, maybe you have a really big ego or come across as snobby, maybe you just like or dislike something and are mistaken for an extremist, therefore only getting caught in the cross-fire of a fight that isn't even your own, there is a huge number of different reasons for why someone may not like you. But you should respect that, learn from it, and move on. Not try to pursue the matter, harass people, or generally make it worse for yourself.

I'm pretty sure a few people really dislike me because of the groups I'm in and the stamps and rants I make, but I don't make a big deal about it. I love to hear the thoughts and opinions of others on my work, even if they disagree with me. Otherwise, how would I learn? How would I be able to see things from a point of view that isn't my own?

So even if the subject matter is something that never directly or intentionally brings harm to someone, people do have very real reasons to hate or dislike something. And if you want to have the right to love something and be able to show that love, then you have to allow people to hate and show their hate of something, because that's only fair. "If you have nothing nice to say, then don't say anything at all" doesn't always work.

So if you want respect, positive attention and the right to show your love, then you have to earn it and prove that what you love deserves such good treatment.

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Updated stamp text and color, I like this blue more than I like that orange I had before. I thought it was distracting. But is this blue too bright and distracting, too?
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Twilightcloversuper8 Featured By Owner Jan 9, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
God, I learned about that the hard way when I first came here. :( (Sad) 
BIitzQueen Featured By Owner Edited Oct 31, 2014  Student General Artist
I was hated because I don't look like an anime character. I'm not having a complete makeover that doesn't match me at all just for someone to start respecting my work.
InsanityHearts Featured By Owner Sep 7, 2014
Agreed! :) 
BritLawrence Featured By Owner Nov 16, 2013  Hobbyist Photographer
life... get one :facepalm:
pepper131361 Featured By Owner Nov 7, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
and these comments get very strange toward the end.. random,,,,
pepper131361 Featured By Owner Nov 7, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
that was a long stamp.. 
Yaitilia Featured By Owner Jul 24, 2013  Professional General Artist

If it were for this, I'd should have now a millon of friends, but I don't have any.
Because I care of my friends, but anyone care of me, they ignore me, and hate me, they think I'm a shit, they are even jealous with no reason to be.

And no, write is the best thing I do, and my draws aren't bad (not perfect, but not bad).

I tried everthing on this page, but anything is right with me, even when I'm kind with people.

So shut up, please.
Sushi-Troll Featured By Owner Oct 6, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
telgega Featured By Owner Jul 15, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
So, what are your childhood issues?
sweetstrawberryblood Featured By Owner Apr 1, 2013  Student Traditional Artist
shealpha1 Featured By Owner Jan 27, 2013
Brisingr-Arget Featured By Owner Jan 24, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I agree, on all aspects. Well said.
kumage-mon Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
this is a very good approach to the matter.i especially like the artist section in the artist comment.:D
Talmenar Featured By Owner Oct 17, 2012  Hobbyist Artist
"My good opinion once lost is lost forever." Mr. Darcy
Lifeisstillsweet Featured By Owner Oct 8, 2012  Hobbyist Photographer
This is a little harsh don't you think? I'm not trying to cause an argument, just a little suggestion :shrug:
Cuffermix Featured By Owner Sep 22, 2012
You should have to earn cruelty. You should not have to earn kindness. Thinking the opposite is the reason the human race is so self- destructive.
pepper131361 Featured By Owner Nov 7, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
you are SO right.. you have the most intelligent and accurate statement on this ENTIRE page, probably entire sight.. 
thanks for that.. its nice to see some people still know civilized human beings should behave to one another.. 
HPRULEZ15 Featured By Owner Sep 8, 2012  Hobbyist Artist
This is not true, no matter how hard you try they will still hate you in the end, i learn from truth, not this. I'm sorry.
Snowy1010 Featured By Owner Aug 13, 2012
I learned from this. Thanks.

Read the whole desc.
Degenerott Featured By Owner Aug 6, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Wolfaboo's are often disrespectful of dogs and other animals anyways,I shouldn't feel sorry for them if they get disrespected also.
RekaCryistall Featured By Owner Aug 4, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
It's just as childish and immature to hate an entire species for something that only a few animals did. That's like saying ALL pitbulls are evil because ONE attacked another dog once. THAT needs pointed out just as badly as people needing to realize there is good and bad in every creature; every creature. But you should blame the deed, not the breed and realize you can not pin the uncharacteristic behavior of a FEW animals on every single other one whom has never done anything of the kind.
Pleachen2 Featured By Owner Jul 6, 2012
Oh, I know right?

And on that whole wolf thing, the defensive person being like "they don't kill for no reason", there's such thing as SURPLUS KILLING, which is killing something that they have no use for and then just leave. It's an actual thing. A lot of animals do it, like hyenas and red foxes, and yes, wolves.

And the yaoi thing. I personally love open same-sex couples. I love how they can be so open about who they love. That's great. But sexual stuff... It needs to be consensual. It needs to be, how is it actually love other wise?! If a man loved his partner, man or woman, he would care about how they felt about getting intimate. And a woman needs to be the same. I know rape isn't thought to be committed by women, but it's possible. And it's not okay. So I totally agree with that. And they should be okay with people not liking that part of yaoi/yuri comics. You never know who has had a traumatic experience.

There are probably a few more things I could talk about. But it's late. And I'm tired. DX SO ANYWAY... :iconsnoreplz:
Blowakiss0Blowajob Featured By Owner Mar 29, 2013
Lol, I agree. Personally, I get disturbed by ANY FORM OF rape... anime or not, yaoi or not. And nothing has ever happened to me in my life that would cause me to feel disturbed/disgusted by it... Eh, I love homosexual couples as much as the next teenage girl, but rape is taking it too far.
eighteenthstar Featured By Owner Jul 2, 2012
I disagree with the whole kindness and respect has to be earned thing purely for the fact that courtesy and manners should be a given until someone offends you first. We all think and feel differently though and handle things in different ways which I gladly accept since we all have our stories for how we are.

I agree with the fact that whilst people defend what they love or appreciate most, they forget the voice of reason and in the end, they only make themselves look like the fool. They need to realise that people in this world have many different views, likes and dislikes. Not everyone is going to agree with them - I don't understand their lack of common sense with some things.
Snowy1010 Featured By Owner Jun 22, 2012
I so totally agree. People are starting to make A LOT of Offensive Stamps...
ElliotxClaris Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2012
Wish I could that.
Silverstonepokegirl Featured By Owner Apr 24, 2012  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
wow... well i don't care of people are haters unless they make a big deal out of it... i just learned to respect all things and opinions... i know most people have a logical reason for hating something but i think about it this way... if a snake or something ate you pet rabbit or something don't totally hate all snakes, just be mad at that one snake and know that that snake ate your rabbit for food and didn't know that someone so deeply loved that rabbit...that's a logical reason for hating something, it took away a pet you loved. oh yes today at school i heard some girls saying that they hated an animal because they though it was ugly... that's a dumb reason for hating something and that's kinda bouncing off the thing "don't judge a book by it's cover" that's why i think of this whole hate thing...
UnknownSoulCollector Featured By Owner Apr 19, 2012  Hobbyist Artist
thankfully although I have only few friends, I still lucky that I have no such problem~:)

reminds me I have a friend, he does not interest in my fantasy fiction, yet he still do his best to listen to me, I am always glad I have a friend like him, and i'll do my best to understand him :happybounce:

good stamp you made :thumbsup:
AidanInferno Featured By Owner Mar 25, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
i totally agree with this. People need to understand that we all have our opinions and yet they don't understand why. I tell them my reason why I don't like a certain thing but they just don't listen and bombard me with some dumb talk.

Besides that, thanks for making this stamp =p you rock~!
blurryfang Featured By Owner Mar 20, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
You don't know what my life is like. I can't just magically get positive attention by shutting up. I don't say a word all day and people still hate me. The thing is, no one cares about me. They just want to see my reaction to every little thing they do to piss me off. One day I sware I will seriously hurt some one.
UnknownSoulCollector Featured By Owner Apr 19, 2012  Hobbyist Artist
perhapes you didn't find the right person to talk with :noes:
Croue-Battle Featured By Owner Mar 12, 2012  Professional Digital Artist
Can I use this?
AmethystKirby Featured By Owner Mar 12, 2012  Student General Artist
Of course :)
poppybrolll Featured By Owner Mar 5, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
This reminds me of a girl that whenever she gets negative feedback, she says "I don't see why you all hate me so much when I did nothing to you (less correct grammatically, of course)", followed by an angry face. She is really clueless, I'll tell you.
MuckyPawsHusky Featured By Owner Feb 16, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Yeah, but what if you're fiesty and have YOUR reasons for sticking up for whatever it is?
What if the haters come up to you or see you and randomly yell, '_____ are so stupid?'
At my school, I'm a HUGE animal lover. Loads of the boys come up to me and say that animals are stupid, that they've shoved a firework up their dog's ass, I've had to go through someone showing me a dead pigeon (Ran over) on their phone, for the damn bucking's sake.
How do you think I feel? Why do you think I stick up for animals and call them incompitent fleas? (I probably spelt it wrong- I DON'T CARE).
I've got a bad relationship with my dad after he excessively said he hated animals!
Fine. So maybe they have THEIR reasons to dislike them.
But maybe I have my reasons to like them, and stand up for them.
What if I get provoked easily and have loved animals since I was born? That gives me a reason, and I'm still a fairly nice person, so long as I'm not provoked.
Leerer-Raum Featured By Owner Dec 22, 2011  Professional Digital Artist
Yeah, people usually don't hate the thing, it's the association they have with a few crazy fans that kills it xD
Acejinjo Featured By Owner Dec 13, 2011
"people do have very real reasons to hate or dislike something" I can understand that though I some how always forget that ^^;

And you're very right with "If you have nothing nice to say, then don't say anything at all" That's for sure.
Synstematic Featured By Owner Nov 29, 2011  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Definitely a valid point here. I certainly understand when people have a legitimate reason to dislike something, and I respect it. I like wolves, but I know there are people who have reasons like the ones you mentioned in the comments section. While I understand these people, it disheartens me greatly when you have people who join anti-wolf groups and the like just for an excuse to go around and attacking fans. Nothing at all wrong with what you said here; I agree with all of it, but I think this side of things tends to be neglected.

Go ahead and rant at me if you want, I honestly don't mind.
Krirka Featured By Owner Sep 30, 2011  Student General Artist
I love giants,and had a friend who told me that was porn.
What I draw involving giants are hugs,or kisses.Is that consider porn?
I know there´s that vore,feets,and stuff like that,but I don´t like it.
I just like to draw a character of mine hugging by a gigant me,or something since I was a little and innocent girl,so I don´t think this means porn.
But man,what you say,some people just don´t listen.
AmethystKirby Featured By Owner Sep 30, 2011  Student General Artist
Lots of people consider giants and growth to be a fetish, but it certainly is NOT porn unless you make it out to be, so don't worry about it too much :)

Never have I watched a movie about people growing and shrinking and ended up covering my eyes because it was "porn", it's just an innocent adventure. If that were true, movies like "Monsters VS Aliens" and "Honey, I Shrunk The Kids" would be in the adult section XD
Krirka Featured By Owner Oct 1, 2011  Student General Artist
Thank you.^^
Glad someone understand.
Wolven-Sister Featured By Owner Sep 22, 2011  Professional Digital Artist
I understand what you're trying to say. Basically you're saying, see everything in every viewpoint not just your own.
I agree to this. I've gotten some harsh words said on my art, but the best thing is to do what you said in this stamp, see it from their point of view. Surely they may have a complex reason for hating something or it could be something as simple as "the fandom ruined it", there could be many reasons because there are many people on this earth, and we all have our own experiences and life paths.
Totally understand what you're saying with this stamp and i agree :nod: It's always good to keep an open mind especially when it comes to the opinions of others, keeping your own opinion is important too, but there's nothing wrong with listening to another's opinion :D
EmoberryStudios Featured By Owner May 27, 2011  Student Digital Artist
It's sorta like crazy christians, and other crazy people of religions
Karmillina Featured By Owner Sep 29, 2011  Hobbyist Digital Artist
and crazy atheists and pretty much any crazy militant.
Ichikon1 Featured By Owner May 14, 2011
I died of old age reading this.
CannibalisticVampire Featured By Owner Mar 27, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
you have a lot of issues with ppl who have animal fetishes/obsessions.......... its funny and weird...
idk whether to be disturbed or to laugh my ass off.......

and that stuff that person said was awful.
common courtousy ppl.
when someone tells you theiir puppy died and their uncle almost did, you say "oh my gosh im so fucking sorry for being an ignorant ass please forgive my selfish insensitivity"
not "he deserved it"

that is so... ugh who does that????

lol sorry that just really struck a chord with me....

youll prolly be like, "wait which stamp is this again huh?" lol sorrry.
Higurai Featured By Owner Mar 22, 2011
Now I feel really silly about something I posted a while ago, feeling quite hurtful because of a bunch of sexist remarks. :XD: Although in most cases I don't receive better counter-arguments than "You're male, therefore you cannot possibly understand what sexist prejudice is, you disgust me as a human being because you draw things to please your genitals!"
... Which I don't. But apparently these people are always justified. :iconfacepalmplz: Haters gonna hate. Which is why I feel stupid now for getting all whiny about it. I vent things, and that's good, but after reading this stamp and agreeing to every point made, I still feel stupid.

I do let people have their opinions about my art, however, but if they're going to start calling ME a disgusting human being for having my opinions, I suppose it strays a little from the path of logic. :paranoid: Still. Whining is whining, argh. :iconotlplz:

As for the rape part... I always try to understand both sides of an argument. Fangirls/boys who believe rape is hot... well... I'm pretty sure they wouldn't want it to happen to them, or to anyone else. But, trying to analyze the whole thing, I thought of why they would still think like that. I suppose it's the idea of imagining yourself in a dangerous situation, without actually being submitted to any real danger or harm. A lot of people get off on dangerous things being exciting, but they still wouldn't want to physically get hurt unless they're masochists. So I'm guessing it's the thought experience.

... Still, being a rape victim myself, I can't imagine even finding the thought arousing.
I do use the word "rape" as a joke sometimes though, and I don't really think of it... Many use it very loosely and casually, and I suppose I can too. But I do understand the seriousness of it, and I don't find anything remotely related to it any appealing. If people really like the thought of rape, then roleplay, or whatever. But screaming it out loud on the Internet as if it's the coolest thing in the world, could actually hurt someone. It's not hurting me, but someone might get highly offended. I try not to use the word loosely around just anyone, if I joke it's with people I know.

Wow, such a long message. OTL I'm sorry for talking so much, I just got really interested in everything you wrote.
kabya19 Featured By Owner Mar 22, 2011  Hobbyist Digital Artist
That guy obviously knows nothing about wolves. Wolves don't kill for fun, but they don't only kill for food either. I still like them but I can see why you don't. I wouldn't.
Aya-Kun-San Featured By Owner Jan 10, 2011
Very deep and well thought out opinion, and an excellent artists comment.
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